30 year old dating younger man
Any advice on how to navigate these new paradigms in the dating world? And to directly address your email, I have to divide my response into two different parts: 1) What You’re Getting Right and 2) What You’re Missing. We’ve addressed this before, from an older man who couldn’t possibly fathom why a younger woman wouldn’t want to be with him. We can complain that the opposite sex is unrealistic and passing up great opportunities – and we’d be right – but it doesn’t change that people want what they want. They, too, have a lot of dating options, are busy building their careers, and don’t have a clear urgency to settle down. Theoretically, this is when want to have time before becoming dads.
Thus, their target market remains women, 27-34 – who may not be ready to settle down quite yet.
I am trying to remain positive, but two things are really bothering me. Once a guy crosses 35, however, he (theoretically) tends to get more serious.
One, that younger women are no longer interested in dating men who are even just slightly (3-5 years) older than them and sometimes want to date men 5-10 years younger then them. Alas, the women with whom he wants to get serious are 27-34.
Well, if you're 50 and your companion is 70, you're almost bound to provide care long before you would for a mate of the same age. Plus, most people would willingly choose to endure the rough patches so long as they get a reasonable run of the good stuff beforehand.
Your children, of course, may not see the lure of September-May dating quite the way you do!
I am told that women want to settle down and have kids, etc., but their actions seem to be to the contrary.
If your love is true, you'll help everyone involved work through these issues and more.
And both you and your 11th-hour soulmate will congratulate yourselves for having the gumption to step off the cakewalk of same-age coupling.
The older person, for his part, gets a higher-energy companion who is likely to help the couple stay fit — and, quite likely, more sexually active.
But won't the "junior partner" eventually have to pay the piper?