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It’s great conversation fodder when someone displays snapshots of himself on vacation or out with friends, but it’s reasonable to expect at least one clear picture of his face.If you receive an impersonal message that seems oddly like a form letter, it probably is.“Everywhere you go, you’ll be with one girl, but then you see another beautiful girl, and suddenly your mind can go elsewhere …We all want the next best thing.” Tech inventor Ben Way, who moved to the Upper East Side from the UK, has also felt the pressure to stay single, since most of his friends aren’t in relationships — and blames this partly on American culture.“Meanwhile, all my single guy friends love their freedom and tell me to keep dating, too.” Like Garofola, he finds the city’s surplus of datable women to be a con — not a pro — when it comes to finding a potential mate.
“In America, you’re either friends with benefits, going out or this big area in the middle of ‘you’re just seeing each other.’ This totally screws up dating.” Nick Notas, a Boston-based dating expert and blogger at Nick Notas.com, sympathizes with these busy bachelors.
If that didn’t turn her off, then the subsequent emails from the same men asking why she was an ageist definitely did.
It’s okay to state some basic requirements, such as whether you’re willing to date someone who smokes or who has children.
[The women] always ask me what I do for a living, if I wanna get married and leave the city, and it’s so exhausting.” But while some dudes lament their confirmed player status, Notas says there’s actually value in being a womanizer.
“A lot of marital troubles and divorce stem from people settling in relationships that aren’t compatible for them,” says Notas.